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Is it very likely that a women who is not showing any interest in her husband sexually after two decades will be able to change her pattern of relating to her husband if she has clearly been unable to perform in a way that satisfies him. She can not give OS to her husband or touch him simply to arouse him saying she just can't. There has been therapy with no change and they are living together for the children. If a pattern as been the same for many years, how likely will it be broken, or remain the same way of relating. Will this man really ever be satisfied just to settle, he is fifty and very sexy and passionate and says he felt he just had to live this way.

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If sex is the only part of the marriage that he is not happy with then I don't think that is enough of a reason to get a divorce. I would think that the age of the children are important too. If the children are old enough to be on there own soon then I would at least wait until then to make any changes... At fifty-something can we really expect that this guy will be getting all the tail that he wants even if he leaves his wife? Has the sex life really changed in the marriage or are these things that the husband now wants all of sudden? There are a lot of ways to stimulate ones self...

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nope, time to move on
No
MiracleHand2020 has got it right.
tell her either she gets with the program, or you'll get it elsewhere
Sounds like she's a lesbian! Ah well, at this point it's too late, unfortunately you two made a commitment. Now, if you don't think there is anything wrong with divorce, go for it. Maybe your wife will come out as a lesbian once she's free!
In the end, all of it, will be his choice to stay with his wife.

Whether or not they relate sexually anymore has to do with the both of them, it's their decision if they want that back. If only one of them does, it's not fair.

Children are resilient, they will be better off with happier parents than a empty marriage.
He froze her. He must warm her up. A coward will freeze a woman's sexual desire dead. I can never feel anything but pity for a coward, like my husband. He is an @$$-kissing coward, who thinks that cleaning and fetching me a glass of water turns me on.

No, a brave,strong man is what quickly grabs my attention. I've told him this, but it is not in his spineless nature.
I suggest you watch "I Think I Love My Wife".The movie got good reviews and one thing i learned from it that a marriage isn't all about what you want but the two should try to find some way to still love each other. You should rent that.
You may think that it is in the childrens best interests to stay, but if you are in a marriage without passion, then what is that saying to your children. they will probably end up in loveless marriages themselves as they think its the norm. Do everyone a favor and move on
no you are not setting a example of marriage to your kids. you need to be happy and so does your wife. i'll bet i get a few thumbs down for this one.
I would have to say that the man bent over backwards. At their ages, the kids are grown. They should be out on their own. He has every right to inform his wife that since things have not changed, he's gone. Sad, isn't it, that a marriage should be so miserable for both of them for so long? He's not happy and it's obvious she isn't, so why on earth should they stay together?
NO. Children can sense when there is a change in their parents. They know. They may not know what, but they know something is not right. Why would anyone want to settle for less?! You and your spouse are cheating each other out of a good relationship with someone else. Realize this and move on. It will be better for everyone.
He should have a mistress if he can't get sex at home
Excuse me,plz excuse me,but I need to know who is speaking,I am a 100% sure it is not the man in question nor are you the wife.Are you the other woman by any chance?.You seem to know too much yet your inquiry is detached.Sex after so many years of marriage sometimes becomes monotonous and boring.Sometimes the woman gets depressed late in the marriage when they start to fill unfulfilled.This only revels itsself in a dormant form of depression that only surfaces in her secret deallings with her husband.Let it be known that when sex is over and done with when a passionate kiss feels more like a kiss of death,when your partners touch makes your skin crawl some things still remain the same.

true love and commitment.
People will say that sex isn't everything in a marriage but I personally think it is the part that keeps the spark and excitement alive. I have been with my wife for 29 years but about 5 years ago we went through a bit of a no sex period. I am a typical male who can have sex at the drop of a hat and my wife only complains if it has been to long without it. We separated for six months, well didn't actually separate but we did live in different houses. we started dating again,dinner, movies, drives in the country usual stuff. Five years on things are great. Oh forgot to mention stay apart for the first month you will find out what you miss about each other. I have never felt that married couples should stay together because of children as it causes friction in the family home. If you realize that you are both happier when you are separated then that is the best way to stay.
Your wife obviously understands the "for better or for worse" part of your original agreement but it would appear that you don't. And you describe yourself as being very sexy and passionate and go on about your needs. Excuse me but do you know what her needs are? I don't read anything here about this woman sticking by you all these years raising your children, etc. etc.and your appreciation of her devotion. What exactly have you done for her lately besides going to counselling to find out what is wrong with *her*. Your thinking needs to shift upwards, above your belt-line. Marriage changes every day and as the years go by, the relationship needs maintenance. You talk like a lot of men in your age group, trying to hold onto your image of yourself as a young man and not being able to deal with what you see in the mirror every morning.

If you would stop pressuring your wife to act like some 18 year old nympho hot after your bod, she might relax and remember why the heck she married you in the first place.
time for him to turn and run.. he needs to find someone that does not have emotional problems and not on any meds that sexually deactivates the female libido.